Save the date!
If you are anything like me your fridge is probably covered in save-the-date cards! What exactly is the point of a save-the-date ? It is the first step to announcing your engagement and getting your guests to plan for your important day. Wedding season tends to fill up fast so if you want to make sure your guests can make it to your wedding you need to let them know about it far in advance.
Here are some commonly asked Q&A that may be helpful in making your save-the-date decisions:
Q. Do we have to send a save-the-date card?
A. In short, no. However, if you are having a destination wedding or a wedding weekend with three days of festivities it has become more common to send a save-the-date. Allowing your guests proper travel planning is common courtesy, especially if you are asking them to b
ook flights during high travel season. Also make sure to check with your town hall to see what other festivities are taking place during your wedding weekend. If you’re getting married on a farm in Vermont over Columbus Day weekend, the busiest leaf-peeping weekend of the year, you may want to let guests know well in advance so they can actually book hotels before the no vacancy signs pop up.
Q. When should we send our save-the-date?
A. 6-9 months before your wedding. For a destination wedding bear on the side of longer is better. Give people time to save some money for their flights, request off work, find sitters for the pups and kids, and plan their own vacations. If you wait to long you haven’t used your save-the-date for its true purpose and you might as well wait to send the invitation.
Q. Do we have to send them to everyone?
A. Always bear on the side of caution. Once you have mailed a save-the-date there’s no turning back so make sure you send them to people you really want to attend.
Q. What about “and guest”?
A. It’s best to be clear about who is invited to the wedding. If your college roommate has a new, of-the-month beau, and you save-the-date to your friend “and guest”. Making decisions about “and guest” should be made when you make your guest list. If you decide against inviting your college roommate with a guest and then things take a sudden turn to serious town you can always add his name to the invitation. These situations will probably, hopefully, be few and far between.
Q. What information should be on the save-the-date?
A. The date of course! You should also include the location of the wedding, at least noting the city. The actual event times are unnecessary and often do not get settled that quickly anyways. Listing your wedding website is also a good idea so people can find more information such as hotels, transportation, attire, weekend events, and registry selections.
Q. If someone receives our save-the-date and sends us an early decline for the wedding should we still send them an invitation?
A. Yes, as a common courtesy to your guests you should still let them know they are welcome at your celebration.
Q. Do we have to send a magnet?
A. NO! Magnets are a popular choice since save-the-date cards often end up on the fridge but you should have fun with your save-the-date! Use your save-the-date as a way to get people excited and in the mood for your wedding day. Having a seaside affair? Mail seashells on a bed of sea grass with your card attached (one of our favorites, see below!). Having a destination wedding? Send airline ticket cards or passports. Having a local wedding? Let us bake custom cookies that you can hand-deliver to your guests, what a treat! There are many ways to express your personality with a save-the-date. Contact us for more information about designing yours!